TODAY

• KA LEI MAILE ALI'I: THE QUEEN'S WOMEN, a celebration of Queen Lili'uokalani's birthday and of the women who supported her, 3:30 p.m., Kanaina Building, 'Iolani Palace; with speakers Dr. Noenoe Silva, Alice Guild, Meleanna Meyer; lei(s) welcome for guests; musical tribute by The Prince Kuhio Hawaiian Civic Club and Nalani Olds to precede the event at 3 p.m. at the Coronation Pavilion; free; parking on grounds, seating limited.

TUESDAY

• TAIKO DRUMMING CLASSES for all skill levels through Oct. 21 by the Taiko Center of the Pacific through Kapiolani Community College Office of Continuing Education and Training; call for complete information. 737-7236.

• "LIFE AFTER RETIREMENT," with Ann Simpson, retired from Bank of Hawaii, 10 a.m., for senior citizens, Central Union Church women's building, 1660 S. Beretania St., Makiki. 941-0957.

• "TRAINING, TRANSFORMATION AND THE FUTURE OF THE ARMY IN HAWAII," Rotary Club of Honolulu luncheon meeting, talk by Lieutenant General E.P. Smith, noon-1 p.m., Royal Hawaiian Hotel, Regency Room 2259 Kalakaua Ave., Waikiki. 922-5526.

• JEFF ALAN, news director of ABC-TV, St. Louis, and author of "Responsible Journalism," to speak 1:30-3 p.m., old Blaisdell Hotel, 1154 Fort St., Room 310; sponsored by Hawaii Pacific University and the Society of Professional Journalists; free. 544-9379.

WEDNESDAY

• FREE SPECIAL EDUCATION WORKSHOP, parent empowerment meeting for families of special needs children, 6-8 p.m., Lihue Public Library, Kaua'i. 246-3727, 241-2228.

• Friends and Family Affected by Incarceration Together Healing, support groups facilitated by people who have lived through the experience, 6 p.m., first and third Wednesdays, Unity Church of Hawaii, 3608 Diamond Head Circle, Diamond Head/Kapahulu. 735-4436.

THURSDAY

• DIVORCE CARE, self-help seminar and support group for those experiencing divorce and separation, 6:30-8:30 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 1822 Ke'eaumoku St., at Nehoa St., through Dec. 6; free childcare available by reservation; workbook $10, scholarships available. 532-1111.

• GRIEF SHARE, video seminar series and support group for those grieving the loss of a loved one, 7-9 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 1822 Ke'eaumoku St., Makiki. ; through Dec. 6; workbook $12 (optional); free childcare. 532-1111.

SATURDAY

• JUNIOR LEAGUE OF HONOLULU training program for new members 8:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m., Pearl Harbor PSD; women 18 and over interested in volunteering are welcome; call for further information. 946-6466, 834-1465, 244-9443.

• "INDIVIDUALS WITH DISABILITIES EDUCATION ACT AND CHAPTER 56," free special education workshop on federal and state laws that govern the provision of special education and related services for disabled students, 9 a.m.-noon; "USING EVALUATION DATA TO PREPARE AN INDIVIDUALIZED EDUCATION PROGRAM," development of appropriate goals for disabled students based on their strengths and needs, 1:30-4:30 p.m., North Kohala Family Center, near Chalon office, Hawi, Hawai'i; call to reserve. 889-5002, 800-533-9684.

• "HAWAIIAN LEGENDS AND HULA FOR ELEMENTARY," second in the Hawai'i Orff-Schulwerk Association workshop series for teachers, music specialists, physical educators and the interested, 9 a.m.-noon, Punahou School, Castle Hall, taught by Dreena Kane of Kamehameha Schools; call for further information. 262-5387.

• "EARTHLY DELIGHTS WITH NORMA," Mediterranean cooking class focused on fall delicacies by Norma Koenig, 9-11:30 a.m., Lyon Arboretum, 3860 Manoa Rd., Manoa; course # B-18, $22, members $18. 98.

• HAWAII CHAPTER PI LAMBDA THETA 10 a.m. business meeting, Arcadia Retirement Residence, Punahou St., first floor chapel, 11 a.m. program featuring speaker, Katherine Bolman on "Applied History of Art and Architecture," lunch 12:45 p.m.; call for reservations. 946-9135.

• NATIONAL MARINE DEBRIS MONITORING PROGRAM BEACH CLEAN UP of Malaekahana and Chun's Beaches, noon, meet at Save the Sea Turtles International Foundation, 61-529 Kamehameha Hwy.; purified water and light pupu provided. 637-2211.

UPCOMING

• "OPPOSITIONAL DEFIANT AND CONDUCT DISORDER IN CHILDREN," free special education workshop 5 p.m. Sept. 10, Hale Na'au Pono (Old Kaiser Building), 87-217 St. John's Rd., Wai'anae; call to reserve seat and handout. 696-2371, 536-9684 ext. 21.

• "PUBMED AND MEDLINE PLUS FOR CONSUMERS," 9 a.m. Sept. 12 at Hawaii Medical Library, 1221 Punchbowl St., downtown; 90 minute workshop on basic skills to search and access health information, repeats noon Sept. 18; free; call for reservations. 536-9302 ext 127.

• "ORGANIZATIONAL MANAGEMENT AND RESPONSIBILITIES," workshop for community-based nonprofit groups by Volunteer Legal Services Hawai'i, 8:30 a.m.-noon Sept. 19, downtown headquarters, 545 Queen St., Suite 100 and Sept. 26, Queen Lili'uokalani Children's Center, 'Ewa Unit, Waipahu; also "Fund-raising Basics," 1:30-5 p.m., Sept. 19 and Sept. 26, the 'Ewa Unit, Waipahu. 522-0682.

• SISTER EDNA DEMANCHE to be honored at The Hawaii Academy of Science's 76th annual meeting and recognition dinner, 5:45 p.m. Sept. 19, Tree Tops Restaurant, Manoa; buffet dinner $18, members $10; reservation deadline Sept. 10. 956-7930.

• FREE SPECIAL EDUCATION WORKSHOPS, "Empowerment Through Parental Recordkeeping," 10-11:30 a.m. Sept. 22, Department of Education Hilo Annex, 480 Waianuenue Ave., Hilo, Hawai'i; bring child's evaluation and medical reports, IEPs, report cards, correspondence, a ring binder and index dividers and a recent photograph of your child; lunch on your own 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m.; "I.E.P. Consultation," hands-on help to address your child's special education needs, 1-4 p.m.; bring your child's current Individualized Education Program, most recent evaluation reports, highlighters (pink, green, yellow); post-it notes; call to reserve seat and handout. 982-7130, 936-8890.