EDITORIAL
The holiday blahs can strike anyone

The holidays can bring out the best and the worst in us, depending on the state of our relationships and finances. Moreover, this time of year can be particularly tough on those separated from their loved ones.

So if you're struggling with a seasonal bout of the blues, remember, you're not alone. It's like catching the flu. If you take good care of yourself, you will survive.

And don't worry if you don't fit the standard happy-family mold depicted in the TV commercials. Retailers make the bulk of their profits between Thanksgiving and New Year. Just because the industry is in overdrive, doesn't mean you have to be.

Meanwhile, here are 10 suggestions from the Hawai'i Psychological Association to ease the holiday blues. They're worth observing regardless of whether you're down in the dumps.

1. Family gatherings bring joy as well as unresolved issues. Remember that this is not a time to solve all past problems, and that silence is sometimes the best answer. You can't please everyone, and everyone won't please you.
2. Reach out to others who are lonely; it can help you put your own problems in perspective.
3. Take care of your body: Get plenty of sleep and rest. Drink lots of water. Limit alcohol and be sure to work in some exercise every day.
4. Stay within your budget: Remember, it's the thought that counts, and a heartfelt card can be more special than a store-bought gift.
5. Don't take on overwhelming projects: This is not the time to remodel the house. Don't worry about what guests or relatives will think; save the spring cleaning for the spring.
6. Know how and where you are spending the day. Don't be afraid of being alone; it can be OK, even beneficial, if you plan for it.
7. Let people know if you have special needs such as anniversary mourning or a recent loss. Don't keep it to yourself.
8. Adopt a spirit of gratitude. Count your blessings and watch how they add up.
9. Don't feel obligated to attend every single holiday function. Saying no can be very healthy this time of year.
10. Remember the reason for the season, and keep things simple.