Goodbye to the single life

• The Wedding Planner's Web log

By Tanya Bricking
Advertiser Staff Writer

Monday, Nov. 17, 2003

If you happened to see a bunch of drunk guys riding from bar to bar on a trolley over the weekend, odds are that was my groom and his buddies.

For the bachelor party, they rented a trolley and made their way through town from tavern to tavern. (If they also ended up at strip clubs, he left that part out.) It was not a well-documented event, and for that, I am grateful. He said "cameras were not authorized." I'm sure that was smart thinking. I don't even want to know the details. I'm just glad he and his friends made it home safely and that they were wise enough not to have the bachelor party the night before the wedding. (Why? The hangover factor. It wasn't pretty.)

The gals had a much more subdued get-together. We bottled the wine we made eight weeks ago at a bridal shower at Diamond Head Winery. We sampled the batch, bottled and corked the Chardonnay, decorated the bottles with bows and personalized labels, chatted for a while and called it a night.

We talked about having one last girls' night out while I'm still single, but I'd be just as happy with no wild stories about my last week of singlehood. It's just hard to believe that it's my last week of being single. I am so ready not to be anymore.

Planning a wedding in a little more than three months has taught me not only that it can be done, but I recommend it. Maybe I'm just impatient, but if I had to wait six more months for the wedding to get here, I would really be a mess.

This week is going to be crazy, but I think I can keep it together. My major tasks today (well, besides actually working) are to squeeze in my final dress fitting at lunch today and meet with my groom and the priest later to go over the plan for the ceremony. The rest of the week is crammed with errands and last-minute tasks before my family arrives from the Mainland.

I'm getting excited. It's a mix of that pre-vacation feeling and just being giddy that I'm marrying such a great guy. People keep asking if we're nervous. I think both of us are relatively calm about the wedding part of this — the most important part — the actual marriage part.

He doesn't have to worry about me being a "Runaway Bride," and I don't have any fear that he'll leave me at the altar. (If by some twist of fate that does happen, I promise to revive the blog.)

I am thrilled to never have to go on a blind date again. I'm thrilled that I've finally found someone I want to grow old with. I'm thrilled to kiss singlehood goodbye. It was fun, but this is better.

We're ready to take the plunge. Of that, I have no doubt. Bring on the wedding bells.

Tanya Bricking writes about relationships for The Advertiser. Her journal entries are as numbered as her days of singlehood. They're coming to an end this week. After that, she's off to tie the knot.

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