Goodbye to the single life
• The Wedding Planner's Web log
By Tanya Bricking
Advertiser Staff Writer
Monday, Nov. 17, 2003
If you happened to see a bunch of drunk guys riding from bar to bar on a trolley over the weekend, odds are that was my groom and his buddies.
For the bachelor party, they rented a trolley and made their way through town from tavern to tavern. (If they also ended up at strip clubs, he left that part out.) It was not a well-documented event, and for that, I am grateful. He said "cameras were not authorized." I'm sure that was smart thinking. I don't even want to know the details. I'm just glad he and his friends made it home safely and that they were wise enough not to have the bachelor party the night before the wedding. (Why? The hangover factor. It wasn't pretty.)
The gals had a much more subdued get-together. We bottled the wine we made eight weeks ago at a bridal shower at Diamond Head Winery. We sampled the batch, bottled and corked the Chardonnay, decorated the bottles with bows and personalized labels, chatted for a while and called it a night.
We talked about having one last girls' night out while I'm still single, but I'd be just as happy with no wild stories about my last week of singlehood. It's just hard to believe that it's my last week of being single. I am so ready not to be anymore.
Planning a wedding in a little more than three months has taught me not only that it can be done, but I recommend it. Maybe I'm just impatient, but if I had to wait six more months for the wedding to get here, I would really be a mess.
This week is going to be crazy, but I think I can keep it together. My major tasks today (well, besides actually working) are to squeeze in my final dress fitting at lunch today and meet with my groom and the priest later to go over the plan for the ceremony. The rest of the week is crammed with errands and last-minute tasks before my family arrives from the Mainland.
I'm getting excited. It's a mix of that pre-vacation feeling and just being giddy that I'm marrying such a great guy. People keep asking if we're nervous. I think both of us are relatively calm about the wedding part of this — the most important part — the actual marriage part.
He doesn't have to worry about me being a "Runaway Bride," and I don't have any fear that he'll leave me at the altar. (If by some twist of fate that does happen, I promise to revive the blog.)
I am thrilled to never have to go on a blind date again. I'm thrilled that I've finally found someone I want to grow old with. I'm thrilled to kiss singlehood goodbye. It was fun, but this is better.
We're ready to take the plunge. Of that, I have no doubt. Bring on the wedding bells.
Tanya Bricking writes about relationships for The Advertiser. Her journal entries are as numbered as her days of singlehood. They're coming to an end this week. After that, she's off to tie the knot.
[Posted on November 19, 2003 at 2:18 pm HST]
It might be \"do-able\" to plan a wedding in three months, but it is not recommended! Many of the wedding planning problems you have had were because you have tried to do just that and when things went wrong, the only option you had was prayer \'cause you were surely out of time!
If one is planning a large wedding a year or more is recommended. You have so many more options that way and plenty of time to figure out just what you want.
I\'m glad it has all worked out for you! Good luck in your marriage!
Lisa
Honolulu
[Posted on November 19, 2003 at 10:03 am HST]
it's good to hear that you are ready to start with the marry life....but i would always remember what my pastor always say "it's good to be marry but it takes a miracle to stay marry"....i just want to say good luck to you and your husband to be.....
deecious
honolulu
[Posted on November 19, 2003 at 8:28 am HST]
Best of wishes,
May your best friend become your husband and your husband remain your best friend.
Michael
Hawaii Kai
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 10:26 pm HST]
congratulations and best of wishes for both of you towards a long and lasting friendship. Being married only means that you have made that committment to be married. After that you need to maintain that friendship that brought you both together in the first place. What sparked that magic to ask that question: Do you want to go out with me? then you learn each other's bad habits as well as the good habits and what made you both want to go out again and again and again.
All I'd like to say is Congratulations and God Bless You Both
Maile La'au
Honolulu & Kamuela
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 6:36 pm HST]
First of all CONGRATULATIONS!!! I wish you all the best!!! I have really enjoyed reading your ups & downs on planning your wedding. Every womans nightmare is the "what if's"...don't worry...be happy...it will turn out to be a spectacular day...I hope that when it is my turn, I don't pull out all of my hair...maybe to make it easier we'll just get married by judge...CONGRATS again!!! :)
JMG
Kapolei
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 4:44 pm HST]
wow, the time is finally here! You sounded like a wreck in the beginning, actually a big worry wart, but you pulled it off, very impressing! Congratulations and Good Luck with your marriage :)
s.m.
pearl city
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 3:19 pm HST]
another one bites the dust......been there (2x)
good luck; you'll need it!
cindy
Oahu
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 7:06 am HST]
Congratulations and I wish you all the wonderful adventures that marriage brings. Just remember, it isn't always easy -- but with the right man-- it is ALWAYS worth it! (sounds like he's the right one).
Enjoy your big day -- it doesn't matter what little thing goes wrong as long as you end up married!!
Christine Proebstl
Columbus, Ohio
[Posted on November 18, 2003 at 6:22 am HST]
Enjoy, Go For It. Life is too short to be alone.
Alex
Pensacola, FL
