THE WEDDING PLANNER
Dreams you don't want to come true
• The Wedding Planner's Web log
By Tanya Bricking
Advertiser Staff Writer
Monday, Sept. 15, 2003
When I was a kid, my neighborhood friend and I found a roll of raffle tickets and decided to give one to everyone on the block as admission to our Sunday afternoon puppet show.
Then we promptly forgot about it.
Sunday afternoon came, and when my family got home from church, a line of neighbors stood there waiting to be entertained.
My friend was nowhere to be found.
My mother was not amused. Unprepared for guests and probably on the verge of grounding me, she gave me the worst possible punishment: She told me the show must go on.
I performed, poking puppets in the air from behind my dad's bar in the family room, and I tried to make them talk through my tears. For years, it was my most embarrassing moment on record.
Lately, weirdly, my dreams have reminded me of that childhood day of shame.
In one dream, my fiancé got mad on the day of our wedding and left me at the altar to go drinking with my brother. (When I woke up and told him about it, he jokingly said something along the lines of: "What's wrong with that?")
There was another dream where I was kissing the wrong guy. (I was afraid to tell my honey about that one... What did that dream mean?)
I'm just waiting to close my eyes and dream I'm walking down the aisle naked because I forgot to get dressed, or something equally humiliating.
Even awake, I have irrational wedding worries.
What if we forget the rings? Or if we forget the prayers during Mass just when people are looking at us? What if I faint? What if I trip? What if there's a hurricane?
I guess it's just as well if my anxiety manifests itself while I'm asleep, because I don't like to obsess about such things while I'm awake.
If I could just order up a flying dream, that would be pretty cool. Aren't those dreams supposed to be good omens?
No more left-at-the-altar dreams, please. And, OK, no more dreams about me kissing other people. And no puppets.
Just insomnia.
Tanya Bricking writes about relationships for The Advertiser. Reach her at tbricking@honoluluadvertiser.com or 525-8026.
[Posted on September 23, 2003 at 11:18 pm HST]
I love your articles and your writing! Please keep on keepin' on!
lisa
Aiea
[Posted on September 16, 2003 at 11:26 pm HST]
I am currently going through this as well. My wedding is coming up in about a month and the nightmares hasn't stopped. Just last night I had a nightmare about forgetting my vows and I was standing at the altar full of tears with everyone laughing including my fiance. I woke up and the first thing I did was put "don't forget vows" on my to do list. I had to laugh when you mentioned about kissing other guys, about a month ago I had dreams about kissing my ex...eeewww creepy!Anyway, after reading Diary of a Mad Bride (I highly suggest all brides read this book) it helped to know that other brides go through the exact same thing. The nightmares hasn't stopped for me yet, but it has gotten better. I say it's just pre-marital stress that comes with being a bride. Good Luck to you, try to get some sleep (i can relate to you) and Congratulalations!
KoKoNut
San Jose
[Posted on September 16, 2003 at 11:01 pm HST]
Before my wedding I had a dream that it was held in a rusty old airplane hangar decorated with balloons and streamers, the minister was a no-show, and my fiance and I was 2 hours late. Most of the guests had already left. My mom was there doing the "I told you to plan earlier!" lecture. But our wedding was a couple of weeks ago, and it was fabulous. Don't worry about the dreams, just try to get some sleep! Best wishes.
just married
honolulu
[Posted on September 16, 2003 at 5:15 pm HST]
I cant believe you left that comment! what a waste of space!
Jason Tom
Honolulu
[Posted on September 16, 2003 at 9:46 am HST]
I can't believe this is an article in newspaper! What a waste of space!
Jane Goodall
Honolulu
