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KISSES & MISSES
Tried and true works, many say
By Tanya Bricking Leach
Advertiser Relationships Writer
Maybe there's something to all this election-year talk of "moral values," because that's definitely what divides people. Here's a sampling:
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"Perhaps you could question this single female's style of dress," he wrote. "All too common nowadays is apparel that is much too tight-fitting, too low-cut and too much bare skin showing. This is what men see first, and with 'sexy' clothing comes the male expectation that more is to come. So what do they expect?"
I'm not saying he's right. CLUELESS never mentioned her attire, and I seriously doubt clothes are her problem. Perhaps she's just meeting people in the wrong places, one reader says:
"My take is that your advice to her should have included where NOT to go looking. Guys looking to meet women of quality (meaning someone worthy to take home to Mama) do not go to 'meat markets' for anything other than sexual conquests. Therefore, unless a woman is also looking for sexual conquests, she should avoid 'hunting' there.
"One last bit of advice" he said. "DO NOT align yourself with a man that says he is leaving his wife, girlfriend, whatever. ... He won't."
And to all those people who write in about being "friends with benefits," heed this reader's warning:
"Many people are writing in asking you whether they should keep up their sexual relationships. Or in one case, the woman said they were supposed to be 'friends with benefits.' If people had some morals, they wouldn't have some of the problems they have. If they waited to have sex until they got married, if both are faithful, they don't have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. If they were friends without benefits, she wouldn't have to worry about why he hasn't been to bed with her. She could just enjoy his company. I know it may seem I have a very old-fashioned way of thinking. However, with AIDS and other diseases killing so many, maybe the old ways should be brought back."
Want to speak your mind or ask a question about a matter of the heart? Write to relationships writer Tanya Bricking Leach at Kisses and Misses, The Advertiser, P.O. Box 3110, Honolulu, HI 96802; or e-mail kissesandmisses@honoluluadvertiser.com.
