However, I'll take it from your responses that you are not interested in the kinder, gentler version of this column. So, this week, tough love is back. Enough explanations for your lousy excuse for a significant other.

If common sense tells you it's time to break up, listen to that little voice inside.

That, or listen to Tutu:

Dear Tanya: You're WAY off! You shouldn't instruct women to be so desperate! He obviously lacks character. She should spend her time trying to find someone who's mature and ready for a serious relationship, not try and "hope" that he'll change; or worse yet, be a martyr.

Of course he's going to say he doesn't know why he did it. He did it because he could! He did it because he cares more about himself than for her.

He's not ready for a committed relationship! Come on, Tanya! That was really pathetic advice. Would you tell your daughter to hold out for this "great catch"? Please inspire women to be more deserving of a great guy, not to settle for a loser!

You said it, sister.

Dear Tanya: My on-and-off-again boyfriend of eight years says he still loves me, but he recently started dating another girl who gives him money to pay his bills. (I have dated another person, too.) He told me he is not really into her but that she is nice and she has been through a lot emotionally.

We still talk and see each other often. She doesn't know and seems needy and naive.

This man and I have gone separate ways over the years but have always returned to each other. I don't know if I want him back this time. He is really a nice guy, but he is leading this girl on, and I sort of feel bad for her. She even found a pair of my underwear on the bed and is still trying to be with him! Should I leave him for good or should I wait like he has asked?

Dear Torn: Read the answer above. Repeat.