Posted on: Friday, December 31, 2004
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KISSES AND MISSES
Internet babes may be old guys
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By Tanya Bricking Leach
Advertiser Relationships Writer
Hi Tanya: I met a woman a month ago on the Internet. She lives there in the States, and I live in South Africa.
After about a week of chatting online, I called her so I could hear her voice. We agreed to meet next August. She is even willing to come visit me, if it weren't for financial restrictions and a tight schedule.
She is totally into me; she even told me so in plain English. She said it is hard for her to feel really attracted to someone and find someone really interesting. I feel more than just sexual attraction for her, and the way that we talked sounded like she is actually looking for a husband.
So we talked about it one evening and talk every day on the Internet.
I feel it is important to tell you she takes classes on weekends and has a daughter of 11. She recently caught flu and had to have a root canal yesterday. She told me she would talk to me yesterday but nothing came of it. The previous evening I stayed online for all night waiting for her, and eventually she came on at 4:30 a.m. my time. She was surprised and asked me why I was still awake. So I told her I was asleep but my messenger works like an alarm. Another time I asked her what happened to her romantic side, so she told me all the things happening right now are taking their toll on her. So I said I was glad to hear it was nothing more than that. Then last night she never came online and I am beginning to wonder what is going on. I actually think that I love her. Can you please tell me what's going on?
— HAVEN'T GOT MAIL
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It's possible the poor woman just had a toothache and didn't feel like sitting in front of her computer. It's possible she made up the thing about the root canal and the 11-year-old daughter.
That's the thing with online romances. You never know if it's the real thing, because you never know if the person messaging you is a single woman or an old man getting his kicks pretending to be someone else.
So you talked to her on the phone and everything seemed just the way your imagination wanted it to be.
Just be wary of falling in love with a dream. True love is what you have face-to-face and soul-to-soul, not what you create on the Internet.
Need advice on a topic close to the heart? Write to relationships writer Tanya Bricking Leach at Kisses and Misses, The Advertiser, P.O. Box 3110, Honolulu, HI 96802; or e-mail kissesandmisses@honoluluadvertiser.com.
Yeah, here's what's going on: She's your online pen pal. You have never even met her. She's a fantasy.
What do you plan for 2005?
