Instead of breaking up, someone following this classic passive-aggressive WWO philosophy leaves her lover wondering whether she met someone else, got tired of the relationship or is leading some super-secret double life.

The worst thing you can do is be forgiving to a fault, because you don't want this pattern to continue. Just the idea of having a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach every time your girlfriend is late coming home could be enough to make you want to rid yourself of fears that she'd take off again.

Oh, if only you could turn love on and off like a light switch. That would be easy. But that's not the way it works.

Without knowing the specifics, I can only say that you can't blame yourself for being left in the dark.

You sound as if you love and miss her so much that maybe you'd take her back no matter what.

The thing is, when someone takes off, there's no one left for you to forgive. Explanations may be too little, too late.

So forgive yourself for putting yourself first.

Either people commit to a relationship or they don't.

If your girlfriend takes off, you can't make her come back.

And maybe you can't fix whatever's wrong.

So forgive yourself for moving on.