When Panther died six years ago, the Okinas of Hawai'i Kai had lost more than just their 15-year-old cat. Panther was a member of the family from the moment he left the Cat House at the Hawaiian Humane Society and became part of the Okina household.

Although time has passed, Panther is still deeply missed. "We went through a certain period of time when we were really sad and then angry," says Pauline Okina. "I still get teary thinking about Panther. He brought us so much joy and love."

Animal companionship is an important quality in life to more than 96 percent of O'ahu residents, according to a 2005 Ward Research Survey. When a pet passes, the grief an owner feels is no different than that of losing a human family member or close human friend.

Many people find expressing grief for their lost pet to be difficult. Pets provide unconditional love and lifelong memories, and letting go of the physical bond of companionship is difficult, at best.

The amount of time it takes to heal differs greatly. While one person may skip a stage of grief completely, another person may experience the same stage over and over. But it is always important not to compare your grief with that of another.

One stage of grief is denial, when an owner will refuse to believe his pet is gone. Others may acknowledge their pet's passing, but will blame themselves — "If only I had done this." But instead of dwelling on heartache, remember the happy, love-filled life that you nurtured. That approach will help you move forward and allow the healing process to begin.

A measure of peace is found when you come to terms with the death of your companion. You can feel happy for the times you shared and for the traits that made your pet unique.

If you wish to honor your pet, here are a few suggestions: