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Posted on: Sunday, June 5, 2005

What's with all the kneeling, eating?

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By Jeff Chung

A few weeks ago I used this space to explain the "name calling" in Korean dramas.

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"Super Rookie" fans are expecting Kang-ho to end up with Mi-ok, not Hyun-ah, according to last week's online question of who Kang-ho will end up with. Of the 111 votes tallied, Mi-ok pulled in 87 votes while Hyun-ah drew 24.

It was about how calling someone uncle or another relative term in South Korean culture doesn't necessarily mean the two parties are blood-related. Hence, if they end up getting romantically involved, it can be confusing for the casual K-drama viewer.

I received many calls on this topic, followed by more questions regarding other interesting cultural cues that need explanation.

For instance, some K-drama fans want to know if the act of kneeling means something other than forgiveness and respect.

Basically, this is a time-honored tradition. You see it in old K-dramas such as "Emperor of the Sea," and also modern K-dramas such as "Sad Love Story."

The Korean culture is deeply rooted in Confucianism. I grew up learning to respect elders, and bowing is second nature when meeting other Asians.

I often kneel in front of my parents, as do many Koreans, especially on New Year's Day, to wish them a healthy and prosperous new year.

Among nonfamily members, kneeling is the sign of seeking forgiveness. It is portrayed in dramas as so extreme you must forgive the person if he or she kneels in front of you.

You will often see a man in front of other men kneeling, after one man finally acknowledges he has lost. I have yet to see a drama where the person was not forgiven after kneeling.

The act of eating is also a big part of Korean culture. The reason why there are many eating scenes in Korean drama is that eating is the only time the whole family can be together.

Again, in the old (dynasty period) ultra-conservative Confucian society of Korea, men did not eat with their servants. Nor did they eat at the same table as their children and spouse.

Today, the whole family eats together but there are still hints of Confucianism.

For example, the elders at the table should start eating first. Children are not allowed to touch their spoons or chopsticks before the elders do. Children shouldn't touch the kalbi or fish until the parents have the first bite. All of this is a sign of respect.

In K-dramas, you will see children often leaving the table without finishing, in anger. This is a sign of disrespect and an act rebellious in nature.

Parents sometimes refuse to eat in dramas as a sign of their disappointment or anger toward their children.

They often have the white headband on and lie on their beds with children at their bedside begging them to eat. If the parent refuses to eat, the children are supposed to wait for the parents. Sometimes it is said you can tell a lot about a person's upbringing by their table manners.

I often eat hamburgers, pasta, sushi or pizza, so I don't come across the traditional table scenario. But trust me, I would offer my parents the first hand at the fries every time.

Jeff Chung is general manager of KBFD, which televises all of the K-dramas. If you have a K-drama question or comment, call KBFD at 521-8066.