Posted on: Friday, March 18, 2005
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KISSES AND MISSES
In the end, no relief for lovelorn
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By Tanya Bricking Leach
Advertiser Relationships Writer
This column is ending where it started: with some of the most Frequently Asked Questions.
Let's open up the reader mailbag one more time and share some other Frequently Asked Questions. Vote for your favorite in the last "Kisses & Misses" relationships poll. The same things just keep coming around.
Dear Tanya: I have tried dating services and personal ads, but I have not been able to find anyone I really enjoy.
Where does a single woman find a man who could be her soulmate? I really need someone to help me as I am not getting any younger!
— DESPERATE AND DATELESS
The best thing to do is stop being so desperate.
Go to the places and do the things you enjoy. Say yes to blind dates and dinner parties. Say no to complaining about the state of your singlehood or the ticking of your biological clock.
Be positive and live life in the present instead of dwelling on the past or the future. You'll attract what you exude.
Dear Tanya: I recently discovered my husband had an affair and exchanged e-mails with a woman and told her he loved her. I confronted him, and he denied the letters meant anything. He says he loves me.
How can I ever trust him again?
— TRUST IS GONE
It would be easy to say just leave the cheater. But if you decide you want to reconstruct your marriage, my best advice is to get counseling — together.
Dear Tanya: A lot of single people write to you.
Any chance you could do a little matchmaking?
— MAKE ME A MATCH
Sorry, it really would be nice to find you a find and catch you a catch.
But if you keep singing that tune, you may find yourself all alone with an annoying song stuck in your head.
Besides, that's really not in my job description.
You're on your own.
I wish you the best of luck.
This concludes the Advertiser's "Kisses & Misses" advice column. Columnist Tanya Bricking Leach is leaving The Advertiser as she welcomes her Army husband home from Afghanistan and they prepare to move to his next duty station. She bids her readers heartfelt thanks and aloha.
Reading through my stash of mail is like watching the spin cycle on the washing machine.
THE FAQ FILE
FAQ No. 1: Where do I meet Mr. Right?
FAQ No. 2: How can I ever trust my cheating spouse again?
FAQ No. 3: Can you fix me up with someone?
