If there's any downside to pet ownership, it's that their lives are too short. For many of us, deciding when to say goodbye is heartbreaking. It can be an emotional crisis to find ourselves torn between watching our pets suffer or having doubts that we may have been able to do more.

In most cases, a veterinarian can make a recommendation, but the final decision is often left to us. What's most important is to put your emotional need for your companion aside and let your pet's quality of life take priority. Putting your pet's welfare above your own starts with gently reminding yourself that all creatures deserve a humane life and a humane death, and euthanasia provides a peaceful passing. Ending physical suffering in our pets is often the last gift of love we can offer.

You will probably know when the time has come with thoughtful attention to a pet's behavior. He may stop eating or grooming, or be unable to use the litter box on his own. Pain and discomfort not helped by medication is also a sign.

Some questions that can help guide you: Is your pet eating and drinking normally? Does your pet enjoy human interaction? Does he or she know who you are? Is your pet able to move around without difficulty or pain?

Terminal illness, a critical injury or healthcare you can't afford may mean euthanasia is the best option.

If it's time to say goodbye, some veterinarians will come to your home. For pets that are stressed by visits to the animal clinic, letting them pass away in the comfort of their own surroundings is ideal.

Following your pet's passing, there are some practical matters to consider. You'll need to decide if you want your pet's body to be buried or cremated. Valley Pet Memorial Gardens in Kane'ohe can serve as a final resting place if you're interested in a pet cemetery. Cremation is offered by Oahu Pet Crematory and Hawaiian Humane Society. However, the Humane Society cannot return your pet's ashes.

In the emotional period following your pet's death, it is important to know that no two people grieve the same, although often we share the same four emotions associated with death: denial, anger, guilt and depression. It's helpful for those supporting a family faced with losing a pet to know that denial may begin before the pet dies. Facing the reality of a pet's illness — instead of trying to convince oneself and others that the pet is getting well — helps everyone better prepare for death.

Recovering from grief often involves finding positive ways to fill the void created by the loss. Some families find it therapeutic to plan a celebration-of-life service. Families may opt to make a donation to their favorite pet charity, which often have unique memorial opportunities at their shelter.

There's nothing easy about how and when to say goodbye. But the greatest comfort is knowing that you gave your pet the best life possible and was the best friend he could ever have.

Ending a pet's suffering last gift we have to offer

MELI

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We have our very own little Cheetah Girl and, if you're a senior age 60 or older, she's yours for free! A former military stray, Meli is black and tan with four white boots and pale green eyes. She's sweet, friendly and very lovable. At the moment, she's a tad on the thin side, but she has a good coat and great "cat-titude!"

JUJU

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Jolly JuJu is hard to resist — she's so darn sweet, but she does have some issues. This black and white dog has not been around children, and may become fearful and nip. Likewise, she has not been around other pets, and can become very jealous of your attention. For these reasons, we recommend that JuJu be an "only child." Despite her easy-going demeanor, JuJu is independent and likes to call all the shots. She's a clever and confident canine, and a little obedience training should work wonders for this animal.

These animals already may have found homes. The Hawaiian Humane Society and McInerny Dog Park at 2700 Wai'alae Ave. are open 11 a.m.-7 p.m. weekdays, and 10 a.m.4 p.m. weekends and holidays. For directions, special events and to see more pets available for adoption, see www.hawaiianhumane.org or call 946-2187. Call immediately to report lost or found animals, ext. 4.