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The Honolulu Advertiser
Posted on: Monday, December 10, 2001

Advertiser Christmas Fund
Household with seven children needs new refrigerator

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By Rod Ohira
Advertiser Staff Writer

"M.G." is a 41-year-old single parent with four children, who has been granted custody of four young kids who had been badly neglected by her brother and his wife, both of whom are drug addicts.

Three of M.G.'s own children — ages 16, 14 and 10 — live with her in a four-bedroom home that her family owns. A fourth child, 18, is living on the Mainland. Seven months ago, she was given custody of her three nephews — 7, 6 and 5 years old — and a 3-year-old niece.

"I didn't want them to be split up," M.G. said of the young children. "When I got them, they were all under the age of 6, traumatized and were street children. They saw police come to their house twice with guns and their mother and father arrested and sent to jail.

"When they came to live with me, I was so afraid for them because they were so neglected and hurt. They had no underwear or slippers. The kids weren't going to school. The first three have delayed learning, mild mental retardation and dental problems, all from drugs."

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Under M.G.'s nurturing, the nephews are attending school regularly and playing sports. "They're getting a lot of love and attention," said M.G., a former teacher's aide who has been unable to work for two years because of her diabetes.

Her family was making ends meet on $800 welfare assistance per month and food stamps. Since May, she has been receiving an additional $2,000 per month ($500 per child) to care for her nephews and niece.

"A couple of months ago, I was feeling burnt out," said M.G., who said her four brothers are helping out. "We went from a teenage house to a children's house. My own kids are starting to feel neglected. But we'll work it out."

M.G. is in desperate need of a refrigerator to replace the one she has, which is more than 20 years old and not in good working order. She has also been unable to replace her microwave, which is also broken.

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Previous stories

 • Sunday, Dec. 9: Family lives in shed, seeks clothing
 • Saturday, Dec. 8: Children need bedroom furniture
 • Friday, Dec. 7: Stroke patient needs friend to get to therapy
 • Thursday, Dec. 6: Shriners patient needs shoes, transportation to appointments
 • Wednesday, Dec. 5: Clothing for sons welcome
 • Tuesday, Dec. 4: Ex-addict, abused wife reclaims life
 • Monday, Dec. 3: Disabled man seeks toy for grandson
 • Sunday, Dec. 2: Ailing son left family buried in bills
 • Saturday, Dec. 1: Woman says seventh child is chance to be good parent
 • Friday, Nov. 30: With its breadwinner laid off, family requests help for first time
 • Thursday, Nov. 29: Pacific immigrants struggle to stay here
 • Wednesday, Nov. 28: Couple forgo gifts, except for two keiki's
 • Tuesday, Nov. 27: Child's grave needs headstone
 • Monday, Nov. 26: Security officer, six children have to eat on floor
 • Sunday, Nov. 25: Holiday assistance badly needed this year